We’ve all heard a lot about the pursuit of happiness, and that it’s an ultimate goal for many. Of course, happiness is great and who doesn’t want to be happy? But, it’s definitely not the only emotion we should feel and, perhaps, shouldn’t be the ultimate goal we strive to achieve. I mean, what are we to do with all the other emotions we experience?
Sadness, anger, frustration, fear, shame—they are all a part of being human, and there is value in experiencing them. Humans are not perfect and, thankfully, do not function as machines. Our emotional range is a big part of what makes us complex beings. As the saying goes, “what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.” Maybe that’s true, but I think it’s more likely that experiencing a wider range of emotions, in their fullness, makes us stronger. If we don’t allow ourselves to experience the full spectrum of our emotions, we might be missing out on some crucial opportunities for self-growth.
In this modern world everyone is forced and asked to portray themselves as very happy and had happiness as a constant feeling. Is this even possible? Why is there so much unwanted pressure? Why aren’t we allowed to express our feelings? Why are people who express their feelings considered weak or arrogant? Why can’t we normalize expressing feelings? Why can’t we simply say “Live life to the fullest” instead of “Live a happy life”? Why can’t we allow ourselves to feel all emotions? What’s wrong with that?
So these are all questions I have, and I would also like to know what you think. I will answer them according to my own opinions first, though.
- So, first of all, it’s not possible to be happy every time, since life is uncertain, and it’s not possible that life will always be in your favour.
- Next is we are not allowed to express because of many phrases told to us like “boys don’t cry.” Why? Are boys not human? So, such phrases don’t allow us to feel our emotions.
- People who express their feelings are considered weak or arrogant by society and people laugh at them. That’s the worst thing someone can do. Expressing your views and emotions is one of the most powerful and courageous things you can do. I was once told by one of my siblings that you are strong enough if you are able to express what you feel.
- The pressure to be happy is not normal. It’s not how it’s supposed to be. We’re all going to experience some hardships in life. That’s part of the experience. If we encourage people to freely express how they’re feeling, without judgment, they’ll be less afraid to let go of their anxieties, sadness, and other bad emotions and will be able to experience joy more fully.
- One of the last things to consider for a person to be able to start to truly live life can be starting to visualise life in a better frame. We can ask ourselves to feel every emotion and be strong enough to overcome them so that we can live a life where we have seen and felt everything.
We are humans, and the most important thing about being human is being able to experience all emotions. If we can’t feel all of our emotions, how will we grow?
How we can make unhappy a normal behaviour?
- I am sick of us judging each other for how we express our opinions and emotions. We are all unique individuals, and we all express ourselves in different ways. If one of us expresses an opinion that is different from what others are saying, that’s fine, and we should not be judgmental. The same goes for emotional expressions. Emotions are natural and honest, and we should not feel afraid or self-conscious for expressing them. We should all accept and respect each other’s individuality and how we choose to express ourselves. In short, let’s stop judging each other based on the expression of views and emotions.
- I think that one of the most important things we can do is tell people around us that it’s okay to express how they feel, even if no one else feels the same way.
- Try to make each encounter with someone an authentic and meaningful experience by being present for the people who want a listener. By being present and empathetic, you can help your conversation partner feel heard and respected.
- Being open is more than just being willing to try new things; it’s about opening up with yourself and others. Being willing to try new things can be a big step. Once you take it, you open yourself up to more experiences. The more you experience, the more you grow.
So, does this mean we should just start crying or being sad around people? Absolutely not! We need to be selective about what we’re talking about, where we’re talking about it, and what exactly is bothering us. Because choosing the wrong place or topic to discuss will not help; they won’t understand you. You need to be open at a place where people will understand you; people who won’t judge you, like your close friends, family, or partner. So be selective and wise with what you do.
So how can you avoid this? Well, you can start by thinking about who you talk to, where you talk to them, and what you talk about. Then you can start practicing. Talk to people about what’s bothering you and see how they respond. After some time, you’ll be able to pick out who’s a good listener and who’s not. You’ll also learn what you can and can’t talk to people about. It might not be easy, and it might take some time to get the hang of it, but the rewards are worth it. It’s good to be able to open up to people, and it’s important to be able to do so without being judged or misunderstood.
I want to reiterate all of these points by saying that it’s crucial to make deliberate decisions about the people around you and to realise that everyone you meet, even in a brief interaction, has an effect on your life. Never suppress your feelings. Being authentic about your emotions is critical to overall well-being. Emotions have a physical effect on the body, and suppressing feelings has a negative effect on all aspects of your being. If you refuse to face your emotions, you have no control over them. The ability to be self-aware and honest about how you feel is a crucial step toward healing and happiness. Feeling emotions is essential to the growth process.
Suppressing feelings and emotions will lead to stress, anxiety, depression, and other health issues. The more you express yourself in all aspects, the better you can navigate the world. Don’t let your emotions rule you and distract you from making rational decisions. Learn to see things from other people’s perspectives to help you in your interactions with others. Don’t let others’ opinions sway your choices or make you feel ashamed of who you are. Be kind to yourself and go through each emotion, feeling it in your heart and mind. Realise the power of all your emotions and how much they mean to you.
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